Jennifer Heward
Let’s Talk About Our Minds
Some of our blind spots are found in our mind.
Our mind is made up of three parts.
Simply put, the conscious mind is our awareness and thoughts.
Our unconscious mind controls all the systems and functions of our body so we don’t have to think about them.
The subconscious mind is our mental beliefs and programming.
Our future is being created by our subconscious. The goal in my work is to find the subconscious programming that is causing things not to work in your life.
The Filing Room
Imagine your brain like a filing room.
Some files came with you at birth. Others have been created from the teachings and beliefs of your parents and teachers. Most have been created from the events in your life.
When something happens in our life, a folder gets created about that event. If it was a positive experience, that folder gets filed away nicely into a filing cabinet. The conscious brain only accesses that folder to bring up a happy memory.
If a negative or painful experience happens, we can develop a bunch of internal, subconscious “issues”. The folder gets put into the “needs to be addressed” basket. The subconscious brain will create new events with that same underlying issue until you address it.
I listen to what you tell me is happening in your life right now, ask questions and can pinpoint what your subconscious mind needs you to know to be able to move forward.
Core Negative Beliefs
We all have core negative beliefs. Some call them limiting beliefs. These are non-truth beliefs about ourselves that get stored in that blind spot. We then perceive things according to these beliefs.
Some common ones I find are: I am unlovable, I always fail, I don’t belong, I don’t fit in, I always get things wrong, I am not enough, etc.
Let me show you how that might show up for someone. If they developed the core negative belief “I am unlovable” they might feel like their parents don’t love them, or that their parents spend more time or give more attention to a sibling. They then might be with someone who cheats on them or is abusive. All this so that belief gets validated and proven correct. Once the belief is removed, the person can see and feel the truth that their parents really do love them, and find loving, healthy relationships.
Mindsets
Mindsets can be similar to core negative beliefs, but are more broad. They are like the categories that core negative beliefs fit into. It’s like the crust of a pie, or the root of a tree. I love working identifying mindsets. When a person can become aware of a mindset, they can begin to see how it shows up in their life. We can’t change something we are not aware of.
Some different negative mindsets are: Victim, Fear, Judgment, Anger, Denial, Fantasy, Lack, etc.
If someone has a victim mentality, they will view themselves as the victim in most circumstances. Have you ever known someone that blames everyone else for their problems? That’s victim mentality. They are never at fault and “bad” things happen to them all the time. If someone really wants to change their life, they are going to have to become aware of their mindsets and own up to them each time they show up.
